Taking The Pain Out Of Meeting With Parents
Which ever picture you relate to, sometimes it feel like this when it comes to meeting with parents. Here are a few tips to give you the confidence to meet the parents.
Here are what I think are the top reasons youth workers don’t have or struggle through parents meetings
1. I Feel Inadequate
Whether you are young or old these feelings can be very scary. Youth workers get in trouble when they focus on pitching programs that mess with normal. The thought is, ” I hope they like my ideas” To go from inadequate to incredible don’t make program the center of your meeting. Selling ideas is secondary to meeting needs. make it your mission to empower parents and those knees will quit knocking.
2. I Don’t Have Teens or Kids
If you don’t have kids of your own you might find it tough to relate to the parents in the room. No worries. Not having kids does not make you any less a good youth worker. This does open the opportunity to:
- watch and learn how parents and kids interact
- admit you are not an expert and you need help
- build a team with parents who can help you understand the family dynamic
3. I Don’t Have A Plan
Many youth workers live from event to event. Parents are professional jugglers, between school, sports, teens personal lives, and church. Why is the church always the least organized of these? If a softball team can have a schedule of games and practices so we can. We don’t want to have a meeting with parents because we don’t want to look like a charlatan. If you don’t have great organizational or planning skills, recruit parents and team to help you and let them help you present the meeting. Play to your strengths, delegate your weakness ,but don’t bow out of the process. Start small and build on it.
I am offering Paul’s Quick Guide To Parents Meetings, on the freebie page, which really deals with the dynamics of creating and hosting a successful parents meeting. It’s a nine page guide with a few tips and tricks. If you are a pro at this and want to offer some comments, I’ll be glad to add them into a 2.0 edition.
Living The Dream - Paul Turner
I’ve written and re-written so may of these, I have decided to try and sum up my ministry in 6 words:
Loves To See Youth Pastors Succeed.
That’s what I’m about. It’s because of my 29 year love affair with God and my 20 year infatuation with youth ministry that I want help you and your youth ministry succeed. Sometimes it takes one good idea, sometimes a few. If I can help you through resources, speaking, or training please do not hesitate to call and ask questions 205-260-7229, tweet me at PaulTurnerToo, or catch me on Facebook.
I've always wanted to be a youth pastor and minster to teens at all levels. Youth pastors, along with camp counselors, have been my heroes. I have been ministering to students now for 20 years and started a free resource sight called The Disciple Project at www.thediscipleproject.net. Come by and say hello.
I live in Birmingham, AL. with my wife and thee great kids, two of which are teenagers.