Youth Ministry is Scary

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It’s easy to be an insecure youth pastor.

Think about it. You are the only one in the entire church that “does youth ministry.”  There’s nobody to compare yourself to. There’s no “standard” to say you’re doing a good job, great job, or terrible job.

At the end of the week, who’s to say you did everything you were supposed to? What shows you that your priorities were straight and that you spent your time wisely?

Better yet, what tells you that you did a good job and made a difference?

That’s when insecurity can so quickly set in. With nobody giving you a thumbs up or thumbs down, there’s a temptation to just feel like you’re not doing it right and all your efforts are in vain.

Plus, with no shared standards or common expectations, every expectation any leader or parent might have, quickly becomes the standard they hold you to. You’ll never live up to all their expectations, so a lot of the feedback you actually do hear is, “Why didn’t you do this?” or “How could you possibly let that happen?”

I’m just being honest here. This is tough stuff. So how do you deal with this pressure?

I pray for the Lord’s favor in each of our lives so that we can survive and thrive because of His love, and in spite of our environment.
And I know that His mercy and blessing is greater than all the worst the world could throw at us.

Nathaniel Dame

Nathaniel Dame is the president of Called to Youth Ministry which provides the youth ministry resources, coaching, community and training youth pastors need. He is driven by a passion to promote effective youth ministry in the local church. Nathaniel lives with his beautiful wife, Christa, in Woodstock, Illinois.


Comments

I actually get a lot of

I actually get a lot of positive feedback from the students and most parents. It gets scary, and I'm actually dealing with a lot of issues with kids and their relationships with God, but all in all, it's a good thing. Keeping the parents informed and seeking help from the ones who care helps a lot.

I hear ya. When I first felt

I hear ya. When I first felt a call to teaching, it left me literally shaking in my boots. What scared me the most were the words of James floating continuously before my eyes: '...we who teach will be judged more strictly.' (3:1 [NIV]) and impressing themselves at the core of my soul. And it wasn't just the fact that I would be teaching that freaked me out, but that the hearers would be impressionable youngsters. The Holy Spirit laid the challenge down: would I keep ever more keenly to His path, not conforming to the world? It wouldn't be just my words that these young people listened to, but my life that they looked to. I won't lie: 18 months later I still freak out over that. Am I doing it right - with words? and am I doing it right - with my life?

Boy I'm right there with you.

Boy I'm right there with you. I think when we stop asking those questions of "am I doing it right," then that's time to worry. We'll always be learning and growing in the Lord until we're with the Lord! Love your blog by the way. I'll pray for you & your ministry.

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